Articles in the Alcoholic Recovery Category
This vintage Al-Anon comic entitled “Jane’s Husband Drinks Too Much” is an easy to understand story of what many people or families go through when loved ones drink too much.
What is the Singleness of Purpose in Alcoholics Anonymous and why is it important we keep the focus the on recovery from alcohol? And what about the Drug Addict? Shouldn’t A.A. Groups help people who are addicted to other chemicals?
Some people enjoy sharing while high in Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. They also enjoy “sponsoring” people despite not knowing how to live sober themselves. I hope this post can be of help to those who ARE seeking sobriety through Alcoholics Anonymous.
Having feelings is not the problem; Suffering in a sea of repressed or denied feelings and thinking we ‘should or should not’ feel a particular way is the problem. This article is for anyone who has tried to ignore, kill, deny, repress, drown, eat, starve or otherwise avoid painful feelings. And, of course, for the Highly Sensitive.
There are aspects to an alcoholic’s way of thinking or behaving that other (usually recovering) alcoholics may be able to look at and think, “Yeah, I did that,” or “I felt the same way,” or “I thought that way too.” But is it really a personality?
But when recovery happens and sanity is present we do 12th Step work even if we don’t necessarily call it that. What we don’t do is go about forcing our solutions or the Steps on people, and especially under the auspices of any 12 Step organization, lest we violate the Traditions or worse. It’s the ‘or worse’ part that has my writing this piece.
My mental well being is not anyone’s personal playground; My emotional well being is not anyone’s moral gymnasium. In learning how to draw the line between my mind and your mind, I am able to keep to the business of myself and my life, and if I am lucky, can assist others on the same journey toward wholeness.
How to change other people has been plaguing people for centuries. From shaming, and blaming, to begging and pleading. So. How do we change other people? Some people claim it can’t be done with, “The only person we can change is ourselves.” And this is patently not true.
If prescription pain pills are on the rise, what does this mean for the person trying to get sober in Alcoholics Anonymous? If a drug addict is in A.A. claiming sobriety because they’ve not had ‘alcohol to drink,’ is an A.A. newcomer supposed to believe that being addicted to Vicodin is the same as being sober?
In retrospect, it is very clear my Spirit – in seeking its natural state – was seeking to cast off all kinds of chemical and emotional dependencies. All it took was my willingness to let my body/mind/ego scream its death song. Piece of cake?
Being a newly recovering alcoholic, I had no idea my brain was treating my sugar addiction as its new alcoholism. Lethargy, sadness, anger, naps after lunch, with nothing to ‘seemingly’ provoke my depressed mental state; It still took many months to discover that my eating was more disordered than I originally thought.
Accepting yourself, who you are and where you are is easier than you might think. Despite years of others telling you you are not good enough or listening to your internal dialogue berate and belittle yourself, it’s only a matter of a little understanding to turn your mind into a place you love to live.
I will not offer suggestions or advice or any other thing that I did not do or that did not work for me to first, get sober and then next, get sane. Everything I share played a part in turning this former self-loathing, helpless, daily drinking and suicide-attempting alcoholic life into a joyous, happy, whole, serene, and sober existence.
About the book, Codependents Guide to the 12 Steps, and how friends and I used the book as our primary recovery from codependency.