Articles in the Codependency Category
Plagiarism has become quite common on Facebook and in the Recovery Community no less. Some Facebook Page Admins are removing attributions and re-purposing without credit. Why does it matter and how can we help not contribute?
This vintage Al-Anon comic entitled “Jane’s Husband Drinks Too Much” is an easy to understand story of what many people or families go through when loved ones drink too much.
Disturbing love meme advocates choosing to be of service and staying with one who has a filthy heart. That’s not love. That’s insanity or more particularly, manipulation into being okay with codependency.
Life is hard when you’re the crawling dead, otherwise the Story-Lines are all that may present challenges. If we tell our narrative that ‘Life is Hard’ how long before we really start to believe that the totality of Life is one big suffering Tragedy or Horror? And there we are, suffering or living in fear.
Some people enjoy sharing while high in Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. They also enjoy “sponsoring” people despite not knowing how to live sober themselves. I hope this post can be of help to those who ARE seeking sobriety through Alcoholics Anonymous.
Staying sane as an INFP and Highly Sensitive Person can be troublesome in a world that values conformity to social expectations and loves to tell you so.
Having feelings is not the problem; Suffering in a sea of repressed or denied feelings and thinking we ‘should or should not’ feel a particular way is the problem. This article is for anyone who has tried to ignore, kill, deny, repress, drown, eat, starve or otherwise avoid painful feelings. And, of course, for the Highly Sensitive.
But when recovery happens and sanity is present we do 12th Step work even if we don’t necessarily call it that. What we don’t do is go about forcing our solutions or the Steps on people, and especially under the auspices of any 12 Step organization, lest we violate the Traditions or worse. It’s the ‘or worse’ part that has my writing this piece.
My mental well being is not anyone’s personal playground; My emotional well being is not anyone’s moral gymnasium. In learning how to draw the line between my mind and your mind, I am able to keep to the business of myself and my life, and if I am lucky, can assist others on the same journey toward wholeness.
How to change other people has been plaguing people for centuries. From shaming, and blaming, to begging and pleading. So. How do we change other people? Some people claim it can’t be done with, “The only person we can change is ourselves.” And this is patently not true.
What is enabling? Why do we enable? And how or why do we finally stop enabling?
If prescription pain pills are on the rise, what does this mean for the person trying to get sober in Alcoholics Anonymous? If a drug addict is in A.A. claiming sobriety because they’ve not had ‘alcohol to drink,’ is an A.A. newcomer supposed to believe that being addicted to Vicodin is the same as being sober?
Being under the influence of conflicting information [culturally supported codependent messages vs a freedom-seeking Spirit], I was a suffering human being. When I stopped the numbing of drinking alcohol, and my Mind had its original messages and beliefs still in there, it screamed out in the suffering of itself.
If your ‘real personality’ is not worthy of being accepted by the one who owns it, how in the name of Isis can you expect others to see it, much less accept it into the state where you feel okay about yourself? Self esteem is a side effect of self acceptance.