Articles in the Codependency Category

Never Explain Anything
Tuesday, 5 Mar, 2013 – 10:17 | No Comment
Never Explain Anything

Never explain anything? Never explain ourselves? Words are not Truth but can point to truth or aspects of truth. Does this mean we should never explain ourselves?

How does an HSP get sober?
Friday, 18 Jan, 2013 – 23:24 | No Comment
How does an HSP get sober?

In retrospect, it is very clear my Spirit – in seeking its natural state – was seeking to cast off all kinds of chemical and emotional dependencies. All it took was my willingness to let my body/mind/ego scream its death song. Piece of cake?

Zen Story – Hakuin says “Is that so?”
Tuesday, 4 Dec, 2012 – 16:22 | 3 Comments
Zen Story – Hakuin says “Is that so?”

Non-Duality includes inviting everything that comes our way into our world and why not? With or without my participation, acceptance, openness or detachment – in this case, to other peoples’ opinions or perceptions – reality will happen.

Accepting Yourself Despite What Others Think
Monday, 19 Nov, 2012 – 14:20 | 2 Comments
Accepting Yourself Despite What Others Think

Accepting yourself, who you are and where you are is easier than you might think. Despite years of others telling you you are not good enough or listening to your internal dialogue berate and belittle yourself, it’s only a matter of a little understanding to turn your mind into a place you love to live.

Help an Alcoholic Stop Drinking
Friday, 9 Nov, 2012 – 9:00 | 16 Comments
Help an Alcoholic Stop Drinking

I will not offer suggestions or advice or any other thing that I did not do or that did not work for me to first, get sober and then next, get sane. Everything I share played a part in turning this former self-loathing, helpless, daily drinking and suicide-attempting alcoholic life into a joyous, happy, whole, serene, and sober existence.

Codependent on Codependency (or Codie People)
Tuesday, 30 Oct, 2012 – 15:03 | No Comment
Codependent on Codependency (or Codie People)

Normally a helpful characteristic – desiring to show that there is freedom available for those who suffer from codependency – it can morph into crazyland and I suffer. This is my story with a whole lot of irony. And my solutions.

Not Everyone Should Like Me
Saturday, 30 Jun, 2012 – 18:14 | No Comment
Not Everyone Should Like Me

Should everyone like me? What planet started this vicious rumor? Not everyone is going to like me. I’ll show you why I embrace and welcome not everyone liking me and if this can help you accept a similar reality, I would love that.

Engaging in Risky Sexual Behavior
Wednesday, 27 Jun, 2012 – 12:46 | No Comment
Engaging in Risky Sexual Behavior

“Later, the daughter would confirm the beating, except that her mother was also yelling “Whore” and “stupid slut” and “fucking bitch” as she was doing it.” Engaging in ‘Risky Sexual Behavior’ might be risky. But who has the target on the back of the one engaging in it? Watch this video.

Codependents Guide to the Twelve Steps
Tuesday, 26 Jun, 2012 – 12:35 | No Comment
Codependents Guide to the Twelve Steps

About the book, Codependents Guide to the 12 Steps, and how friends and I used the book as our primary recovery from codependency.

What People Think of Me is None of my Business
Friday, 4 Jul, 2008 – 1:11 | 17 Comments
What People Think of Me is None of my Business

Three businesses: Mine, yours, and God’s. The HSP or Extra-Intuitive may inadvertently dabble in realms other than ours or the Codependent may *know* due to enmeshment or boundary issues or the Alcoholic may “know” due to habitual guilt and self-loathing – but if I can help myself and you keep the eye on the prize which is knowing what OUR business is, we’ll be happy people irrespective of who thinks what about us. Read this article!

A Relative’s Alcoholic Drinking Problem – A Memoir
Tuesday, 20 May, 2008 – 14:09 | 11 Comments
A Relative’s Alcoholic Drinking Problem – A Memoir

The next night, I’d checked her liquor supply. She had none left, I reasoned, so if she does not go to the liquor store tonight, I’ll be okay. She didn’t go to the liquor store or drink that night. Or the next night. Or the next night. or even the next night. I remember, still, as happy as I was, waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Release from the Opinions of other People
Thursday, 8 May, 2008 – 8:47 | 13 Comments
Release from the Opinions of other People

Release from the opinions of other people is a step in the right direction. I will explore the How and Why to not take words or actions from other people personally. In order to be free from the opinions of other people, start here and read me.

Sensitivity in an Insensitive World
Friday, 2 May, 2008 – 8:31 | 7 Comments
Sensitivity in an Insensitive World

For Highly Sensitive People, the insensitive world can feel quite overwhelming and emotionally charged at times. Trying to change the world to suit us seems a little ridiculous and equally ridiculous is to try to change ourselves to be okay with the “insensitivity.” But, if we could change our perceptions, then we would be more comfortable in this world.

Taking Care of Ourselves from Codependency
Sunday, 27 Apr, 2008 – 14:20 | 3 Comments
Taking Care of Ourselves from Codependency

Taking care of ourselves may not be a natural behavior for many of us. Some of us, being from codependent systems, have learned to wait until we are taken care of. Some of us have great fear in trying to take care of ourselves when others have their own expectations of us.