Articles in the Recovery Category

Taking Care of Ourselves from Codependency
Sunday, 27 Apr, 2008 – 14:20 | 3 Comments
Taking Care of Ourselves from Codependency

Taking care of ourselves may not be a natural behavior for many of us. Some of us, being from codependent systems, have learned to wait until we are taken care of. Some of us have great fear in trying to take care of ourselves when others have their own expectations of us.

Saying ‘No.’ Sometimes it’s an Entire Chapter.
Tuesday, 4 Sep, 2007 – 11:56 | 2 Comments
Saying ‘No.’ Sometimes it’s an Entire Chapter.

I think we associate ‘No’ with negative as in negative feelings and negative consequences. I know I used to. As a child, being told ‘No” was usually accompanied …

Controlling Codependent Bitch
Thursday, 29 Mar, 2007 – 11:15 | 2 Comments
Controlling Codependent Bitch

“Controlling codependent bitch” is the term that would have someone visiting my “Quit Punishing Me” article this evening. Reading the article again, ever mindful of the search term …

Done with Alcoholics Anonymous
Saturday, 17 Feb, 2007 – 17:11 | 7 Comments
Done with Alcoholics Anonymous

I have other articles at this website defending why and how Alcoholics Anonymous is a personal program. I have defended and stood up for the principles the program …

Spirituality vs. Religion – and the 12 Steps too
Tuesday, 2 Jan, 2007 – 2:44 | One Comment
Spirituality vs. Religion – and the 12 Steps too

From the Spirituality section I have since updated here I have chosen to post here.
Spirituality
The concept of my spirituality is based in several philosophies. I believe spirituality is …

It’s All About Me! I am the Most Important Person!
Wednesday, 16 Aug, 2006 – 18:03 | 4 Comments
It’s All About Me! I am the Most Important Person!

This sounds funny, looking at what I have titled this. Sounds so contrary to everything I have been taught and here I am. In public. Out loud. Saying …

Sugar is Addictive!
Thursday, 3 Aug, 2006 – 21:01 | 6 Comments
Sugar is Addictive!

Sugar addiction and how to get off of it. Sugar addiction has reached epidemic proportions and I do believe in a link between alcoholism and sugar based on my experiences and research that showed me my experiences were not unique.

Quit Punishing Me
Monday, 31 Jul, 2006 – 13:19 | No Comment
Quit Punishing Me

“So I guess you’ll punish me.” or “Why are you punishing me?” or “Will you punish me?” or “You always punish me.” or “Why are you torturing me?” …

What is Codependency?
Sunday, 30 Apr, 2006 – 20:30 | 3 Comments
What is Codependency?

What is codependency? Are you the controlller or the controllee? Do you rage externally or internally? Here is a working definition of codependency and examples.

The HSP, Alcoholic, or Controlling Partner
Saturday, 22 Apr, 2006 – 21:35 | One Comment
The HSP, Alcoholic, or Controlling Partner

I was recently honored with a message from a woman who is involved with an HSP. [ Characteristics of the Highly Sensitive Person or The HSP & Relationships may …

Stop and Feel the Fear
Tuesday, 11 Apr, 2006 – 15:05 | 8 Comments
Stop and Feel the Fear

Last night, as I was drifting off to sleep, I was thinking about something I’d been going through recently and how it managed to solve itself. I thought …

Sober without Alcoholics Anonymous
Thursday, 30 Mar, 2006 – 18:29 | 8 Comments
Sober without Alcoholics Anonymous

Some people in A.A. would say that if you can get sober without A.A. then you must not be a real alcoholic. These same people would say that …

Sadness Versus Insanity
Tuesday, 17 Jan, 2006 – 18:10 | One Comment
Sadness Versus Insanity

Somewhere in Melody Beattie’s Codependents’ Guide to the Twelve Steps she makes it clear that when we grieve as we engage this process of recovery that we are …

A.A. and the Members Who Have Found Jesus
Monday, 24 Oct, 2005 – 13:45 | No Comment
A.A. and the Members Who Have Found Jesus

Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help …